November 6, 2014 by Brian
“There are thousands of people living lives of desperation, who work long hours at jobs they hate, to be able to buy things they don’t need, to impress people they don’t like.” – Nigel Marsh
What is it that you love to do? Engages your heart, mind and talent all at the same time? Something you could do for hours and not even notice that time had passed? Now.. what is it that keeps you from doing that thing all of the time?
Answering those questions gives you a chance to step outside yourself for a moment, and see two things very clearly. What freedom means to you, and who/what is currently holding you prisoner.
Many guys had a hard time describing what brings them alive. On the other hand, there were a few guys that could describe in detail what they loved to do, and wished they could do forever. There are as many answers to this question as their are people, since everyone’s passions are unique to them. The list of things that hold us hostage was much shorter, and more universal.
- The need to make a living
- Lack of knowing what makes us happy
- Fear and insecurity
- Wives expecting us to provide a certain lifestyle
As usual, the men of HolySmokes provided great examples of how this plays out in real life. We have one guy who knows exactly what he would love to do, and has been afraid to go for it. We had another guy who is ready, willing and able to pursue his passions, but doesn’t know what they are. Proof, that this topic, and the tensions it creates, is real for all of us.
Since we knew that the financial pressures we put on ourselves, or are put on us by others, is a fairly common reason people don’t pursue their dreams, we watched a video on Tiny Houses. This concept is a rejection of consumerism, materialism and isolationism that modern american society that is constantly forced on us as the definition of success. Check it out here:
As an encouragement to start making changes we watched this video from a recent TedX program in Asheville titled, “Sell Your Crap. Pay Off Your Debt. Do What You Love.” In it, the speaker, Adam Baker, describes the vicious circle we can find ourselves in if we don;t find a way to go “off-script.” One of the favorite quotes from the talk was:
You can watch that video here: