September 8, 2014 by Brian
Check out this video from Pamela Meyer:
“On any given day we will get lied to between 10-200 times…. Lying is a cooperative act, only having true power when we agree to the lie.. Your spouse will lie to you in one out of every 10 interactions…”
Wow! That is a lot of lying. How do we know when people are lying? How can we be effective lie spotters? Or, more appropriately worded for our group, how does one become a truth seeker?
We spent a lot of time talking about white lies, lies of omission, lies of commission. Is it OK to lie to protect someone? What is the difference between exaggerating the truth to be encouraging, and dishonesty. How much should we lie to our kids? (Most people on American Idol tryouts had parents that LIED to them about their singing ability…) Maybe they aren’t that good a sports, music, art, etc….
We also spent time talking about the concept of being accomplices in deception. In other words, we let people lie to us about things we wish were true about ourselves. Similarly, we don’t seek truth in the areas of our own insecurities. We certainly are at risk of believing lies in relationships (she loves me, right?), in finances (everything is ok). We need to take a look at those areas where we are insecure, and be aware that it is these areas where people will more successfully deceive us.
In the end, many guys decided they wanted to be truth seekers. They will work to put off that vibe so that they are surrounded by people who value the truth, and repel those who love deception.
(We also learned tricks on how to tell when someone is lying… this should be interesting.)