April 1, 2013 by Brian
Executive Summary: As men, we have the power and responsibility to choose most of the influences in our lives. Often we give up our power to choose, and simply adapt to whatever comes along. Or, we become creatures of habit, doing little to improve the daily set of circumstances which influence us the most.
Reality check….Studies show we are the average of all our influences. Not the best of each item that influences us, or the worst. Just…the average. This made a number of guys say something like “I need to change some friends/things to increase my averages!” Yes we do.
Here is the video that talks about the things that influence us.
Since we now understand the Power of Influence, we resolve to take action! This week we resolve to either remove a negative influence, or add something positive. Really, we should do this regularly, always seeking to improve our average.
Here is a quote that speaks to the power over which friends influence us. You can click on it to see the entire article.
We are the average of the five people closest to us, and that relates to their lifestyle, manners, income, etc. If you make friends with someone who is always looking for an easy way out, tells “white lies,” makes excuses, is envious, sarcastic, and avoids taking responsibility it is only a matter of time before you start slacking off in those areas and justifying your own behavior as acceptable. Somehow what seemed unthinkable before, will gain a new perspective and become the norm. For, if you run with the wolves you too will learn how to howl, and just like a mirror you will start to reflect the behavior of your friends—the good and the bad.
Using John Maxwell’s writings about leadership, and reviewing an example of a speech given by mother Theresa, we considered our role as an influence on others. Are we bringing them up, or down? We should always try to make people better. When should we use our influence? How do we get influence over others in the first place? Earn their respect.
We clearly need an entire session on the topic of our influence over others.