October 9, 2012 by Brian
Guys don’t worry about anything. We don’t. We might over analyze, or extensively plan for various contingencies And we might even assume the worst when we are contemplating our next series of moves. But…we don’t “worry.” We might drive ourselves to the point of near insanity trying to control what happens in the future, but we absolutely don’t worry.
So, we watched a video by Andy Stanley that I have respectfully re-titled “How not to over analyze, plan, assume the worst and seek to have total control over all situations in the future.” You can watch it here:
This video was very insightful. We only worry about that to which we are devoted. If you want to change what you worry about, change what you are devoted to. We talked about what kinds of things we worry about.
Then, we took a look to see if what we worried about matched up with our own list of things we hoped we were devoted to. Many of us had a mismatch. We want to be devoted to God and family, but we worry about work. Uh oh. Guess where are devotion is, by Andy Stanley’s definition. What kinds of things would we worry about if our lives were devoted to Christ?…. Not much. Would we be busy? Yes. Would we have have to work hard? Yes. Would we have to worry? No.
Many guys said that this video hit them right between the eyes and couldn’t have been more timely. Other guys commented that they wished they had been part of this conversation a few years ago when the economy went south. Having been downsized, and lost their houses, cars, boats and wives, they can attest that worrying about it was a waste of time. It didn’t change anything and just made going through it more miserable.
Here is a sampling of what some of the guys said as we went ’round the room to share our take home idea for the week. (The title of this blog post was from one of the guys during this segment. wow!)
I am going to spend some time trying to make sure my belief in God and worldly pursuits are in congruence.
What he (God) wants for me is to be more free, not to worry.
It’s easy for me to slip back into my old life. I need to work hard to keep God at the center. If I do, things will work out.
I didn’t have a lot of focus when I was younger and wasted a couple years of my life. I had to make that time up. I need to stay focused on what is important.
You have to go against the flow sometimes. I want to be bold more consistently, rather than just occasionally. I want to do what God wants me to do -loving on my family and strengthening the kingdom.
By worrying…can you add even one hour to your life?
I am going to not be so involved in thinking about future activities, I don’t take time at all to seek God’s guidance and I should. Life would have a better balance.
I don’t worry about much, just my kids. That is what I am devoted to.
Don’t worry about bad things happening. Bad things happened to Jesus! But something good always comes out of bad situations.
I have found that I have been worried the least when I let God help me the most.
It is pretty self evident that tonight’s video and conversation was significantly God focused and biblically based. In a sort of strange irony, I worry a lot about alienating some of the non-christian guys in our group when we have nights like tonight…. It didn’t seem like it was a problem, though. I think maybe one guy made a pretty big leap of faith during our discussion. Maybe I should just look at the birds of the air….